Mark, Emily and I read the script of the recent Channel 5
Dallas NBC interview with Leslie (McWhorter)
Michaels. The interview and the
ensuing letters alluding to "all" of the families
"forgiving" Ricky Carter is not completely accurate. We
have always respected Leslie's and anyone
else's right to say they have
"forgiven" Ricky Carter. We love them all dearly. We, on
the other hand, would like to think that our right NOT to
"forgive" him is respected as well.
When Ricky Carter chose to drive drunk, he chose
the possibility to kill. It was not an “accident”. We do
not believe that God either expects or wants us to assume
the responsibility of forgiving this man who killed our
daughter, Lacey. We believe God knows the devastation and
destruction Ricky Carter delivered to our family and the
families of the Mandi, Staci and Whitney. We believe God
knows that we each have a part of our heart that is
permanently broken. We believe only God has the power to
"Forgive" sins. And we believe that Ricky Carter's chance
for Forgiveness lies in God's hands, not ours.
We also believe that God wants us to have Faith, stand firm
and act on what we know is right and just, and find a way to
keep our loss of Lacey and our grief from destroying what
remains of the gift of life He gave us. We are doing our
very best to do each of these things. Our hearts will never
“heal”, but we are working hard learning to “live” with our
terrible loss. Ten years have passed, and we know fully
that we will be “learning” for the rest of our lives…until
the day we see Lacey again. Until that time, we will “live”
with purpose and conviction.
Our unending quest to see that Ricky Carter serves every day
of his 20 year sentence is certainly an unwanted and
uninvited part of our daily lives. We believe that making
him serve the sentence in its entirety is what is just and
what is right. Anything less would be yet another crime.
Revenge has nothing to do with it. Forgiveness from us or
anyone else is not a factor either.
We send our sincere love and gratitude to everyone who is
speaking out for our daughter, the girls and the future
safety of others through their letters to the parole board.
We know how difficult it is to relive this tragedy over and
With deepest regards,
Mark, Liz and Emily Osina
Father, Mother and Sister of Lacey Elizabeth Osina